Not sure if this is better suited to the womens, but I need some advice. My sister has just moved to Nashville and is having difficulty meeting guys to date - all the coworkers are married, etc. I thought the collective wisdom here might could offer some advice on where to go in Nashville to try and meet other singles. So any advice from the locals?
Online dating. Seriously.
In Nashville…go to Church. A large baptist or non-denominational with lots of bible study groups. There is probably one that is just singles. Maybe several.
Tinder
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I second online dating. I was married before all of that fancy stuff but seriously I can’t believe how many people I know are together now because of online sites. Even friends who I would never guessed…my buddy the other day is now dating an articulate and funny doctor who he would have never met without that. He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
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He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
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He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
Bingo! People are too afraid of one another to do things right.
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How old is she? I lived in Nashville and Nashville Sports Leagues was great for early 20s to mid to late 30s. There coed teams from soccer, flag football, sand volleyball and I think the biggest is kickball. They have games probably 5 or 6 nights through out the week but your team is always playing on a given night ( mine were always Thursdays) . You are in a social setting with guys and girls from all walks of life and all games are sponsored by local bars so after a game you might have 5 or 6 other teams or more at the same bar so there are more people that you already have something in common with.
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What ChrisTN said. Or run groups put on by East Nasty or the runs from the various bars, etc. CraftBrewed has Monday Runday every Monday.
My friend/training partner is now dating another cyclist she had met in the past but didn’t really know. He got divorced, he and I starting hanging out (totally platonically) and I drug her off to his birthday get -together last summer and they ended up hitting it off.
He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
Bingo! People are too afraid of one another to do things right.
Don’t misunderstand me I think the innerweb dating thing is great if that’s someone’s gig. BUT when I read a comment like I did from the other guy ‘what am I supposed to do pursue women at the grocery?’. I’m thinking…um yea…why wouldn’t you? I hear excuses from time to time about ‘too busy’ or whatever. Wow, so you don’t go to the grocery store? You don’t go to retail stores? You don’t go out in public? On occasion I have listened in to girlie talk with some of her friends and they have said as much, guys seem to be petrified of approaching them unless they are drunk and then they act like asses. So you get shot down? Who cares grow some thicker skin and roll on! If they’d just learn to embrace the process they’d have tons of fun with it. I have had some EPIC shoot downs and some epic wins too. Can’t win if you don’t get off the bench.
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He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
Bingo! People are too afraid of one another to do things right.
Don’t misunderstand me I think the innerweb dating thing is great if that’s someone’s gig. BUT when I read a comment like I did from the other guy ‘what am I supposed to do pursue women at the grocery?’. I’m thinking…um yea…why wouldn’t you? I hear excuses from time to time about ‘too busy’ or whatever. Wow, so you don’t go to the grocery store? You don’t go to retail stores? You don’t go out in public? On occasion I have listened in to girlie talk with some of her friends and they have said as much, guys seem to be petrified of approaching them unless they are drunk and then they act like asses. So you get shot down? Who cares grow some thicker skin and roll on! If they’d just learn to embrace the process they’d have tons of fun with it. I have had some EPIC shoot downs and some epic wins too. Can’t win if you don’t get off the bench.
I do not misunderstand your posting as internet dating is good but when people see one another in a store, cafe, swap meet or wherever, there is nothing wrong with striking up a conversation.
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He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
Bingo! People are too afraid of one another to do things right.
Don’t misunderstand me I think the innerweb dating thing is great if that’s someone’s gig. BUT when I read a comment like I did from the other guy ‘what am I supposed to do pursue women at the grocery?’. I’m thinking…um yea…why wouldn’t you? I hear excuses from time to time about ‘too busy’ or whatever. Wow, so you don’t go to the grocery store? You don’t go to retail stores? You don’t go out in public? On occasion I have listened in to girlie talk with some of her friends and they have said as much, guys seem to be petrified of approaching them unless they are drunk and then they act like asses. So you get shot down? Who cares grow some thicker skin and roll on! If they’d just learn to embrace the process they’d have tons of fun with it. I have had some EPIC shoot downs and some epic wins too. Can’t win if you don’t get off the bench.
I do not misunderstand your posting as internet dating is good but when people see one another in a store, cafe, swap meet or wherever, there is nothing wrong with striking up a conversation.
Don’t misunderstand was bad wording…I was just trying to clarify I think innerNetS sites are not bad per se, but there are so many missed opportunities in day to day life. We are on the same page.
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Mid-20s. Thanks for the advice everyone. I’ve passed it along to my sister.
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To quote you. Why don’t the women grow some thicker skin and start talking in public too? Why do YOU expect it to be the guys who go up to women to get shot down?
If you are out in public and start talking with someone new, you don’t know if they are single, dating, whatever. Getting shot down got old real quick. Getting shot down when you weren’t even aiming for something and were just striking up conversation got old too.
I actually met my wife with speed dating and got married 7 years ago. We had gone to high school together and then met 20 years later while speed dating. Actually for me, I didn’t care for online dating with all the emails, but I liked the personal interaction of speed dating much better.
He’s like what else am I supposed to do…I’m 46, hit on women in the grocery store?
Ha! That’s how I have met my last 2 girlfriends. Starbucks waiting in line and Publix in the dairy section. I think most men today have completely lost sight of the fact that the simple gesture of talking to a woman like anyone else you’d meet on the street is all it takes to get things moving if there is something there. Problem is many men have no idea how to do that or are too scared. I do not believe it’s nearly as complicated as society makes it out to be. I scanned for a ring and didn’t see one, smiled and they smiled back. That’s all it took and I’m a huge dork with average looks to boot. There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
Agree with you 100%. I don’t see the big deal in striking up a conversation with a stranger. In fact, I feel like there’s less to lose by doing that then online dating. By the time you meet someone with online dating, you’ve already sent emails, exchanged pictures, possibly talked on the phone etc. You’ve put a lot more time in to the whole thing and never even had a face to face conversation. By meeting someone in public, if it goes south in a hurry, big deal, you’ve invested all of 5 seconds in the interaction (not that most woman run away screaming after 5 seconds of conversation with me… I swear…). Half the fun in dating is being able to just not really give a shit what happens, be yourself, put it out there and see what comes back.
If she hasn’t already, have her check out meetup.com. Lots of different groups for active people or whatever hobby/sport/activity she is looking for.
Not sure if this is better suited to the womens, but I need some advice. My sister has just moved to Nashville and is having difficulty meeting guys to date - all the coworkers are married, etc. I thought the collective wisdom here might could offer some advice on where to go in Nashville to try and meet other singles. So any advice from the locals?
Has she tried dancing on the bar at Coyote Ugly?
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There are TONS of amazing single women dying for guys to just talk to them it’s insane.
So you write adds for porn sites? Didn’t know that 
~Matt
Apparently she wants a classy guy, so no. I’ll be sure to suggest it.