My situation is like yours. Alcoholism runs deeply in my family. In my early 30’s I was drinking anywhere between 1-3 beers a night, every night. I would rarely get drunk, and when I did, that was only 4-6 beers. Even though that was not a lot of drinking, my wife was a little concerned because of my family history. One day she asked me if I thought I could go 1 year without drinking at all. After some self-analysis I decided to give it a try.
During that year I realized what part of my problem with alcohol was. During the day, I would think about having a beer when I got home. On a Saturday I would start thinking at around 1 or 2 o’clock, is it too early to have a beer. The problem was, I thought too much about drinking. I enjoy food too, but I never think, “Man, I can’t wait to get home and have a warm burger.” With beer, that’s exactly what I did.
The other issue was, I noticed when drinking a beer, I would start to think about the next beer before the one I was drinking was finished. I didn’t just enjoy the beer I was currently drinking - I needed the experience of drinking. If I was out golfing with a buddy I would have a beer or two on the front nine and on the back nine I would start to think about whether or not I should have more. Usually I would but then I would think about driving home with 3-5 beers in my system. For most drinkers 3 or 4 beers over a 4 hour game of golf is no big deal but it started to become one for me. Drinking was becoming “a thing” for me and when I stopped for that year a whole lot of stress disappeared. If you don’t understand what I’m saying then you probably don’t have an issue and I wouldn’t worry about quitting completely, just cut back.
Alcoholism is a funny thing. People who don’t have an issue with drinking don’t understand why people who are light drinkers decide to quit completely. My friends have asked me about this many times - It’s almost like they try to convince me that I don’t have a problem and I’m being silly. They don’t understand why I don’t drink because they don’t have an issue with it. (or maybe they do and just don’t want to admit it)
There are some negatives to quitting completely. Your friends will harass you. They’ll basically think you’re weird for not drinking. That is the thing that shocked me the most. If you stopped eating fried food no one would give a shit but when they figure out you don’t drink at all any more, that’s a different story. I don’t know why, but it seems to be a bigger deal for my friends than for me. You will also notice that alcohol plays a HUGE role in people’s lives, and how awkward it will be for you to be around some of your friends. There are some friends I don’t see any more simply because we can’t do ANYTHING without alcohol being involved and I got tired of being around them. It was as if my quitting drinking bothered them more than me. And NO, I was never one of those guys who brought it up, I just told whoever offered, “No thanks,” and if asked why I said I don’t drink any more.
I truly wish it wasn’t like this. I would love to be able to just have a beer now and then with my buddies or have a glass of wine with dinner – Some times I miss it. But as the years go by, I miss it less and less and am terribly happy I quit completely. After that year went by I realized my life was much better without alcohol. It would be better if I didn’t have these issues and could just drink alcohol the same way I drink soda (now and then when I wanted one) but it’s not like that for me.
You may want to try what I did – go for a period of time without it and see how you feel. You’ll know in your heart whether you have a problem and need to quit or if you should just cut back a bit. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you one way or another, you’ll know yourself after a few months if you have an issue or not.
To answer your original question – Yes, you will feel physically better in a few weeks. Mentally, it will be difficult and if you have an issue with alcohol prepare for a tough road ahead, but not nearly as tough as dealing with a drinking problem while still drinking. The good news – after a few years you will feel great about it. BTW – I’m 45 now, it’s been around 10 years since I quit.
This may sound cliche, but take control of your life, don’t let alcohol control it for you! I never went to AA (for many reasons) but one of their mantras that bothered me was that you can’t control alcohol - YES, you can!
P.M me if you want to chat more about it.
Good luck!